“The Friend Zone” is real—which is to say, your friends probably don’t see the time they spend hanging out with you as having romantic potential.
What is the friend zone?
The “friend zone” is a term that’s been thrown around for the last few years. Google Dictionary defines it as: “A situation in which a friendship exists between two people, one of whom has an unreciprocated interest in the other.” When you are trying to start a romantic relationship with a person and they tell you they only want to be friends with you… You’ve been Friendzoned! A lot of people think that being in the friend zone is the worst, but that’s not necessarly true. Here are some pros and cons to consider.
PRO. You get to know the person better. If you actually become their friend, you will start spending more time together. Friends tell each other things, so you will learn more about their likes and dislikes and find out what kind of person they are.
CON. You learn too much about them. When you’re in the friend zone, you don’t just have to watch as the person you have a crush on goes on dates with other people, you have to listen when they tell you about these dates (probably in great detail, if they consider you a close friend) and gush over their crushes. It hurts. And if you do get together, being too aware of each other’s past affairs might make you feel jealous or insecure.
PRO. They get to know you better. There is a possibility your crush will change his or her mind once they get to know you better. Sometimes it takes people a while to see someone as a possible romantic match. Being in the friend zone gives you the opportunity to show yourself in the best light.
CON. You behave like you’re off the market. Even though you realize that you won’t get together with the person who friend zoned you, you still behave as if you are taken. Getting stuck in the friend zone prevents you from dating other people, because you still have this subconscious hope that one day you will be promoted from friend to more.