A person should be able to stand on their own, tolerate aloneness, and manage their own ‘stuff’ for a healthy relationship to exist.
5 Signs you’re being needy:
1. You’re Too Available
Whenever your partner calls, you pick up the phone first ring. You are ready to drop whatever you are doing to hang out. A partner wants to be part of your world. They doesn’t want to be the center of your universe.
Focus on your personal goals first. Lead your life in a direction you want and invite your partner along for the journey. They have to feel like you choose to be with them, not that you need to.
2. You Communicate Too Much
Sending thoughtful messages occasionally is sweet. Texting “What are you up to?” every 10 minutes is not cool.
It’s natural to date someone and have them on your radar. Buy overly sharing and turning conversations into a monologue rather than a dialogue is not good. Not good at all! Soon enough, They will get bored and stop replying to text and phone calls.
3. You Do Whatever The Other Wants
When asked what you want to do on a Friday night, your typical response is “Anything you want babe.”
The biggest variable between a confident person and someone who’s needy is fear. You don’t always have to agree with everything your partner believes in. If you feel strongly about something, don’t be afraid and say so. There is nothing more appealing than a person that is decisive, has an opinion, and self confident.
4. You Lose Yourself Outside Of The Relationship
The reason why most relationships fail is from mismanaged expectations. When you stop doing the things that make you happy on your own, you begin to fill that void by demanding more from who you’re with.
Your expectations become unmanageable eventually which causes a lot of resentment and argument. Remain as you are throughout your relationships. Keep up with whatever you were doing before you started dating.
Don’t lose friends and stop doing your hobbies. Don’t give up your time or bend over backwards. Maintain a life on your own, outside of dating.
5. You Need Constant Reassurance
The best time to be in a relationship is when you don’t need to be in one. Fall in love with yourself first and always do things that make you happy. Success in dating happens when two, independent people come together and share themselves with each other. If you seek validation externally, you will always be disappointed. Never look for acceptance outside of yourself, it’s something you carry within. No one can tell you that you’re good enough.
Everyday when you wake up, focus all your energy towards becoming the ideal version of yourself. Share that gift with the person you decide to be with.